The hubs and I went on a short getaway to the San Antonio Riverwalk to have some intentional time and we chatted about so many different things... when do we want to start "trying" to have kids, how do we get involved with foster/adoption, how can we communicate better, what are dreams you have, what is hard right now, should we buy a house, should we rent a house, do we want to live in Austin still, I could go on and on.
But the one questions that is still ringing in my head was from last night at the dinner table, where these two photos were taken. We asked each other, "What is your favorite part about being married right now?"
Initially I thought about seeing Chris everyday or waking up next to my bestie. But I wanted to go deeper and that is when such an interesting thought came into my head. I was thinking about how this whole marriage thing is so NEW. Seriously...marriage is something both of us came into with the same exact skill sets, the same experience (none), and the same heart to see it flourish into the most beautiful thing on this earth.
Growing together with another human is both humbling and incredibly joy giving! Now when I say marriage is humbling, I don't mean it makes me think I am a piece of crap. AT ALL. Marriage is far from that. By humbling, I mean that growing together side by side with my husband requires a posture of being a student and a teacher daily.
Learning who Chris is, how to love him, how to use my time, how to communicate (omg, that is an entire different blog post in itself), who I am, who God is, and how to be one with Chris and God. Taking the posture of being a "student" can be hard, but it is in that place of posturing our hearts to learn we will see radical growth and connection with those around us.
I also have to be willing to teach. I have to teach and communicate my thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires clearly to Chris or we will both be incredibly lost. I am a much more emotionally driven person than Chris so I am learning how to communicate and teach Chris who I am and what my heart is feeling throughout different circumstances.
Growing with my husband in this is simply life giving. We have tough moments, hours, or even days, but each and every moment we are growing together in this unknown territory of being in complete unity with each other. That is the goal isn't it? Complete unity, complete connection.
So what is my favorite part of marriage?
The newness, the freshness, and the mystery of marriage. I do not have to do this alone. I am completely dependent on another person to experience the perfect joy, unity, and love of marriage. God's heart for marriage is that there is a bond so tight that no one or nothing can get in between what He has created for joy. My favorite part of marriage is getting to rapidly grow with my best friend, my husband, my partner, Chris.
Chris, thank you for choosing me to be your bride. I love you yesterday, today, and forever.